3 years of lessons + hair growth
So, if you've read my natural hair story down below, you know that I cut all my hair off June 13, 2015 after experiencing severe heat damage. In the past three years, I've learned so much about my hair. I mean, three years is a long time - that's 156 weekly deep conditioning treatments! (I may or may not have missed a week or two). To commemorate my three year anniversary, I wanted to share some lessons I've learned over the years:
Don't compare your hair to anyone else's: I used to spend HOURS looking at girls' hair on pinterest/instagram wishing my hair looked like theirs. Reality check: it’s almost impossible for someone to have your exact curl pattern! Comparing yourself to others will kill your self-esteem, which is so necessary through this process. Love the curls that grow out of your head!
You have to give your hair TLC: You can't complain about your hair not growing or say it isn't healthy if you don't take care of it. Maintaining natural hair is not cheap, and takes time. Invest (time and money) in your hair, and you won't regret it!
Health over growth, always: It's really easy to take shears to my head since I used to be bald (I wasn’t bald but I felt like it, let me be dramatic). But I know it can be hard to get trims/cuts. However, your hair can't grow if you don't trim/cut dead ends, split ends, or damaged ends. I currently get professional trims twice a year, and trim on my own in between. My hair is longer than its ever been now!
Trust the process: I mean, it's called a natural hair JOURNEY for a reason! Your hair won't be where you want it over night! But its worth the wait. It's taken my hair three years to get to where it is now, and I still have goals and milestones I want to reach. And while I'll never cut it again (or heat damage it), I’m glad I did it. Whether you big chop, transition, or do a mix of both like I did, embrace the process!
Take pictures and document your progress: It's so hard to tell if your hair is growing when you see yourself everyday. Document your hair once a month (or more) to see growth, changes in definition, health, etc. And celebrate those changes in your hair! If you're working hard and putting in the work/effort, you deserve to rejoice when you hit milestones and meet certain hair goals!
Looking back on the past three years, I'm glad I cut my hair off and started over. While it's the craziest thing I've ever done, it was worth it. Caring for my hair has taught me to care more for myself, and boosted my self-esteem and confidence. I love my hair, and no longer look at other girls’ curls, wishing i had them. Cheers to three years of growth and health! 🥂